Why it's not fair to compare yourself to others

Have you ever met someone and you find out that he is better than you in some way? Then you switch perspective to yourself and think,

"I'm not as good as that guy."


You end up feeling horrible about yourself.



Familiar?



But there's a fundamental problem with that type of comparison, because you are assuming that you are on the same level in the process as that guy. Fact is, you are not.



What you see is the result, but what you don't see is the effort he put in to get the result. He has played the game longer than you. If you are on Level 2, he is on Level 10. 

So you can't make an equal comparison between yourself and that guy.

No wonder you feel horrible about yourself.

But you have to realize that you are not being fair by making that comparison.

You will get to Level 10, but not right now. Be patient, and keep on working on yourself. The process is long, but it is worth it.

If you still want to keep that guy in your mind, see him as a motivation i.e. the vision of the person you want to be.



Don't see him as a judgment of who you are now.