Aiman Azlan's Blog

I find that helping people, just for the sake of God, to be therapeutic. An Honoured Station Expect nothing in return except for the ability to serve. Ask God for that. Ask Him to make us servants - servants of the people. Ask Him to put us in the position of service. Honestly, the position of service is an honourable position in the sight of God. The Prophets were servants - they served their people and they ultimately served God. Those who serve others are following the footsteps of the Prophets, and really, whose footsteps are better than those of the Prophets? A Path to Contentment When you serve others, you are stepping into worlds beyond your own. In effect, those whom you served are stepping into yours too. This sharing of worlds is more than an exchange in perceptions, rather an expansion of perceptions. You start to realize that the problems that you personally have aren't that bad. You start to realize how big the world is, with its infinite possibilities. T...

Photo by Umar Mita Emotional bullying is the worst kind of bullying out there. Where is the pain? If you punch someone in the face, you see the blood and your hand would probably hurt too. You know where the wound is and you can treat it. It'll heal pretty quickly too. But if you hurt someone emotionally, you will not see the blood nor will you feel any pain in your hands like when you punch someone. The person you've bullied may or may not display the signs of pain and you may or may not remember hurting that person. You don't know where the wound is and you don't know where to apply the bandage. Chances are, it won't heal in a day or two. People who bully physically have done something wrong, but people who bully emotionally have done something worse. The worst of them all are the ones who do both, and that happens a lot unfortunately. Poisonous tongues Emotional bullying can be done in many ways, but the method of emotional bullying that we oft...

Today, I learned about visual impairment in my Psychology class. We watched a video about 3 individuals with different visual impairments. John The first individual was a kid named John. He was blind from birth, but he was far from handicapped. He was an intelligent kid with big dreams. He wanted to be many things, among them were an astronaut, a dispatcher, and a newscaster. One of John's friends said something beautiful. She said, "Blind kids are normal, they just can't see." I don't know why, but what she said almost made me cry. Kyle The second individual was a teenager named Kyle. Due to a medical complication early in his life, the doctor had to perform a procedure that rendered him blind. But the doctor didn't blind his abilities. Depending solely on his keen tactile sense and his ear for music, he could play the piano very well. On top of that, he had the dispositions of an actor and he was chosen to act in his school plays. Kris...

Photo by Umar Mita On Facebook, I came across a video by Shaykh Usama Canon about Da'wah ( link to the video ) and I highly encourage everyone to watch it. Then, I scrolled down to the comment section to read a few comments. Usually, this is a bad decision on my part because 8 times out of 10, the comment section (be it on Facebook or Youtube) is filled with disappointments. But Alhamdulillah, I am glad that I scrolled down to that particular comment section because I found gems upon gems of honest views from honest people, about Da'wah. I want to share those views with you all here: Person #1 I don't think I understand bringing people to Islam, that seems pushy and semi forceful. The attempts of some people doing dawah is to challenge a person's faith and practices; to bring the other down. That is inflicting a trauma on another human being. That is oppression. I wonder if dawah could be explained in a different way? Say perhaps, wanting for another hu...

Photo by Umar Mita This is a dream I had. Out of anger, I punched a guy's face so hard that I might have cracked a few bones (hey relax, it's a dream). I ran away because I was feeling guilty. He ran after me. Oh, the suspense! Maybe I was too slow because the guy caught up with me in the end. So, I gave in. Plus, I knew that I deserved the punishment. I told the guy to punch me back in the face, just as hard as I punched him. I was scared, because I knew it was going to hurt badly. I closed my eyes and waited for the fist. The guy just gave me a nudge, and he smiled. That was it. He didn't punch me back, even though in all honesty, I deserved that punch. He forgave me instead. I woke up, with tears down my cheeks.

Photo by Umar Mita Before reading this post, I recommend you reading this one first: In the Pursuit of Marriage . Before we begin... This is just a guideline of how to pursue marriage the halal way. Do keep in mind that there is a degree of flexibility when it comes to pursuing marriage the halal way. It is not a rigid, black-and-white thing. To put it in simple terms, what we need to know is what not to do. That basically means knowing and understanding the concept of gender interaction in Islam. Once we have familiarized ourselves with that concept, then we will know our limits and we will know better not to cross them. Judging from the emails that I have received over the past year or so, I see that a lot of people (especially people my age) are confused about or unaware of how to pursue marriage in the right way. Therefore, I feel obliged to contribute whatever I can. I also feel afraid. I feel afraid to write this post because I don't know if I am the best ...

Photo by Umar Mita Lets begin by addressing two misconceptions that I often hear: Psychology is not just about crazy people. It is about people. Psychologists are not psychics. We can't read your minds. People often asked me about the field that I'm currently studying in university - Psychology. Recently I found a comprehensive explanation about what Psychology is. I thought I'd share the explanation here for anyone who is interested. The information below was taken from the book " Culture & Psychology ", 5th edition, by Matsumoto and Juang. Psychology can be understood from its goals: Goal #1: To build a body of knowledge about people. Psychologists seek to understand behaviour when it happens, explain why it happens, and even predict it before it happens. Psychologists achieve this by conducting research and creating theories of behaviour. Goal #2: To apply the knowledge to intervene in people's lives, to make those lives better. ...